Public
displays of affection (PDA's) can be so welcome when done
correctly, but so embarrassing if not. Some of us are too shy
to enjoy them. Others may be too shy to attempt them. But PDA's
don’t have to make you nervous or get your face slapped.
A step above the rest
Sheila, a New Yorker, had a wonderful PDA on her third date
with her current boyfriend.
“He’s more than a foot taller than I am. As we were
walking back from dinner, he stopped, pointed to the steps of
a brownstone and said that it was ‘perfect.’ He guided me
up the first step; while he stayed on the sidewalk…I
wasn’t sure what he was up to. Then he leaned forward and
gave me a long slow kiss. The step was just the right height
for us to kiss comfortably. He caught me off-guard, and I was
completely charmed by the gesture.”
The lesson here is that PDA's are often best when
spontaneous and done with confidence.
The good and the bad
The very nature of good PDA requires a hint of exhibitionism.
While the rules of propriety, custom and modesty may be very
strong, they are not as strong as your feelings of love.
It’s a great compliment for the object of your affection. A
good PDA will leave your lover a little breathless — from
surprise and the strength of your feelings.
Not much needs to be said about bad PDA's. A bad PDA is an
obvious, lumbering event: Extended make-out sessions in
restaurants or a couple rolling around together in a public
park. Bad PDA smacks of adolescence rather than passion;
whereas good PDA occurs when passion cannot wait for a private
moment. Your
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