One of the greatest challenges in dating is making a good
first impression. That’s why online dating sounds so much
easier — instead of talking to someone, you first send them
email messages. What could be easier, right?
Don’t kid yourself. You may know what a great guy you
are, but trying to condense your personality into a few
genuinely appealing sentences is really tough. That’s
because what you think women should know and what they
actually want to know are two different things. And it
doesn’t get any easier just because you’re using a
keyboard rather than a telephone.
Here’s the trick
The trick to presenting yourself successfully hinges on
highlighting who you really are. This will not only determine
whether she’ll be receptive to you, but it will also give
you a sense whether meeting her is worthwhile. So here’s a
few suggestions to get you on your way.
- Be honest.
Now you may think that being short, out of shape, bald, or
even having a habit like smoking is something that can be
dealt with later — after you’ve met and impressed her.
But giving a false impression will only hurt you in the
end.
Faking it can really mess things up because if a woman is
looking for a Schwartzenegger, she ain’t going to be
impressed when Woody Allen comes along. Not only does
dishonesty almost guarantee a door slammed in your face,
you’ll have wasted time that could have been spent
meeting someone else who prefers the real you.
- Be proud of your interests.
There’s nothing wrong with liking sports, video games,
car racing and action movies. Pretending you like ballet
or flower shows when you don’t inevitably will come back
to bite you. Of course you want to put your best foot
forward, but the only way you can impress her is by being
yourself — not what you think she wants you to be. Sure,
this means a lot of times you’ll be rejected, but it
also means that when you’re not, it’ll be so much
better than if you had been faking it.
Your
match is on Match.com