I
hate to admit it, but after my divorce my dating skills were
rusty. I didn’t have a clue where to meet sincere,
accomplished men or how to behave once I did.
In my sheltered condition, I couldn’t distinguish between
an eagle scout who wanted to bring me chicken soup and a
convict whose smiling mug was featured on the FBI’s top ten
list. What to do? A friend tipped me off that quality singles
were as close as my computer. Then I scurried off to the local
bookstore and stocked up on how-to tips from the dating gurus.
Guess what? Self-help authors pack some useful advice for
women when it comes to meeting your match. Here are five
lessons that helped me make the most of online dating:
- Test drive.
Remember that the point of dating is to explore your
options. Search for local singles, browse around and
communicate with lots of people. Dating is a sensory
smorgasbord and a mutual job interview; enjoy the flavorful
possibilities. Remember that you’re checking out your
potential mate’s credentials, and there’s no obligation
to hire someone today. You may be disappointed if a
particular connection doesn’t pan out, but there’s no
need for recrimination and regret. Just be grateful you got
the heart-wise info you needed early. Take the bumpy road in
stride and drive on.
- You’re special.
Believe it. Express this confidence by taking good care of
yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Show it in
everything from your willingness to smile at strangers to
the positive vibes.