It's
a good thing we all have different personalities; think how
dull life would be if everyone was as brazen as Madonna or as
outspoken as George Carlin.
However, it's possible to go too far in the other
direction, and it's tough when your guy is shy to the point of
seeming to disappear into himself. So here are a few secrets
to bring your shy boy out of his shell so that he — and you
— can both enjoy your time together.
Seven secrets for dating shy guys:
- Don't
always be the leader Avoid
the trap that just because he is slow to share his
thoughts, you think that you have to always take the lead
and be in charge. Have patience and let him know —
whether through body language or just by saying so —
that it's not a race to see who can go first. By taking
your time, you can help create a climate for him to take
the initiative.
- Don't hog
the conversation If you must
endure some awkward silence, so be it; it's important to
give him the time he needs to respond without putting
pressure on him. Ask questions so that you're involving
him in the conversation and making it easier to get him to
talk. Remember, it takes two to have a conversation.
- Eye
contact is real contact If he
turns away or looks down, it probably means that he is
embarrassed or has slipped into his shell. Your
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